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Wayne H. Wagie - President
We are All One
In life, most people focus on what they don't want instead of what they do. If you resist your fear, have faith, and discipline your focus, your actions will naturally take you in the direction you want. Release your fear, and focus now on what you truly desire and deserve.
At some point you must stop asking questions and start taking action. Questions such as "What is my life really about?" "What am I most committed to?" and "Why am I here?'' are incredibly powerful, but if you agonize over getting the perfect answer, you won't get very far. The gut-level response to any question is often the one that should be trusted and acted upon. So, in order to produce results, simply decide what's most important to you--at least in the moment--and use your personal power to follow through and begin transforming the quality of your life.
Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards. When people ask me what really changed my life eight years ago, I tell them that absolutely the most important thing was changing what I demanded of myself. I wrote down all the things I would no longer accept in my life, all the things I would no longer tolerate, and all the things that I aspired to becoming.
What's the secret of success? Often we assume that it's genius. Yet I believe that true genius is the ability to marshal our most potent resources simply by putting ourselves in a state of absolute certainty.
Sometimes you need life to be a game so that your perspective becomes more playful. Sometimes you need to see it as a sacred journey so that you appreciate and revere the gifts you've been given, whether they're friends, family, or opportunities. Sometimes it's useful to think of life as just a test or a challenge, especially when you find yourself facing a situation that seems to be without positive meaning. If you choose a different way to represent life, you'll automatically think, feel, and respond to situations in a brand new way.
We are the only beings on the planet who lead such rich internal lives that it's not the events that matter most to us, but rather, it's how we interpret those events that will determine how we think about ourselves and how we will act in the future
What questions would be useful for you to ask yourself on a regular basis? Two of my favorites are at once the simplest and most powerful in helping me overcome challenges: "What's great about this?" and "How can I use this?" Asking the first question disrupts negative momentum and reminds me that we can choose to attach any meaning whatsoever to an experience. Asking the second question focuses me on the "how" rather than the "why," on solutions and benefits rather than the unanswerable.
Questions set off a processional effect that has an impact beyond our imagining. Questioning our limitations is what tears down the walls--in business, in relationships, between countries. All human progress is preceded by new questions.
What new question could you ask yourself to come up with new answers that can improve your life today?
Every upset you've ever had with another human being has been a rules upset. You weren't upset with the person; you were upset that he or she violated one of your rules, one of your standards or beliefs about how things must or should be. In fact, you may have violated one of your own rules for how you should behave, think, or feel.
Next time you start getting upset with someone, remember that you're not upset with the person. You're reacting to your rules for the situation. Simply ask yourself, "What's more important in this case: my rules or my relationship with this person?"
Use this pattern interrupt to refocus on how to communicate in a more heartfelt fashion, and you'll find you can immediately transform a situation of conflict.
What metaphors do you use to describe the things you do every day? How do they make you feel? What new metaphors could you use to be more effective and make life more enjoyable.
While an unshakable sense of certainty can help you accomplish great things, it also has the potential to blind you to the very information that could change your life forever. Have you ever met someone who, out of a need to stay certain, wouldn't listen to new ideas.
f you were to take a look at your own beliefs through someone else's eyes, what would you see?
Our everyday decisions will shape the world we pass on to future generations. What do you put on your dinner plate? What cosmetics do you use? What household products do you buy? These lifestyle choices determine in a small yet undeniable way such things as how much carbon dioxide is released into our atmosphere and how many plant and animal species will be eliminated each day.
By the same token, the decisions you make every day can help stop the destruction of the rain forests, restore the delicate balance of our ecosystem, and create a legacy of hope for generations to come.
Live fully while you're here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You're
going to anyway, so you may as well enjoy the process! Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: Find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don't try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.